The Truth About Forever

Hey everyone! 

Happy New Moon Day!

To celebrate this New Moon Day, Yang and I decided to write our own concept on forever. We may be both hopeless romantics but we're different when comes to forever...

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Jhun

The truth about forever? I'm quite sure no one really knows what forever really is. When will it really end? I remember a few years ago, probably around four or five years ago, I wrote a post regarding "Promise and Forever". basically, it's about how people who fell in love tend to make promises that they'd love each other till the end of time, although only a few of them were really able to keep that promise.

You might find it a bit ironic that for someone who constantly writes about love and other emotional stuff, I still feel cynical about the concept of forever. I remember when I wrote before that I'd rather have someone tell me that they love today than telling me that they will love me forever and ever. Why? Well for starters, I believe that when some people make this promise, they tend to get overly confident that the person they made that promise to will believe it and hold on to it. That even if that person (the one who made the promise) sometimes act like a jerk or a bitch towards the other person (the one whom the promise was made to) that person should just sit still and wait just because of that f***in promise of forever. The thing is, they tend to take that promise as an assurance that no matter what they do or don't do, the other one should just take that promise by faith. Sometimes they tend to think that "I already made that promise so I can act brashly today because I got a whole lifetime to make up for it." and later on all their petty fights will pile up and will end up hating the sight of each other because both were expecting that each will meet their end of the bargain but weren't able to.

Don't get me wrong though, I still believe in love. But not the forever kind. I'd rather have the everyday kind. The one where you can truthfully say to the other person that "Hey, I love you today but later this day I might be an ass and you'd hate my guts but I'd make it up to you later. I'd even love you more with everything I could. That I can promise. ;)" 

So there. I'm in a bit of a time crunch right now so I'd probably just get back to this topic some other time.

Happy New Moon everyone! ;)

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Rhio

Ever After. This is what I like to call my forever.

Growing in Love. This is what I like my ever after to happen.

It's a love story. And this is where it starts. At the beginning. I don't want to us be just any other story that went to waste. I want us to be the story that lives in the hearts and minds of our grand-kids as we tell them when we are old, wrinkly and gray that true love exists. That true and real love happens. And that we are living proof of that.

At the beginning. It will happen when all the forces of the Universe along with fate and destiny and the meticulous hands of the Author of the Universe will let us meet right where we least expect it. Surreal but nice.

We know that we came from different backgrounds. We were built differently. We have different foundations. We have characteristics, quirks, odds, strengths, weaknesses and other stuff that makes us who we are. And we know that we may change or we may not, but, surely we know that we are works in progress and that there's more.

As we knew of this, we will keep our minds open but our hearts closer till they intertwine. We know how the future is so uncertain. Too many odds and risks, too many options, too many choices, sometimes too little chances, the plots sometimes becomes way too twisted, circumstances becomes too unbearable and sometimes things doesn't make sense or everything is just so incomprehensible. We know these as facts of life. But, for the first time in a very long time, after taking care of ourselves and know that we can do this alone and that we are somehow complete and whole in our terms - just looking at each other's eyes, we knew that things will be different from now on. We can finally say to ourselves that 'This is it!' That, finally, we will, together, traverse this journey called life with what we have but much more better because we have each other. 

We will take baby steps. Slowly but surely. Deliberately and conscientiously. This is how we will grow in love. We will share the ups and downs, the joys and the pains, the laughter and the tears. We will be each other's strength and comfort. We will go through the seemingly mundane to the boring ones to the extraordinary and special days. Each day will be different. We will sometimes have shared silences and that's okay, we need that, too. We will be equals because we learn that we are a team, a partnership. We are each other's life partner. And finally, I can have my own man best friend. Yes, we will be each other's best friends and lovers at the same time.

There will be days when we have to face battles of our own. But, we knew that we have each other's loyalty and that this might just be the first step to conquering the battles each of us is facing. But, we can do this. We will make it. For we know that there's no battle that we can't handle. We may sometimes not have all the answers, but just being there with each other is sometimes more than enough. We will guide each other. And should the time come when we feel like losing, we will not forget to hold on to each other. And I assure you, even if I'm not as muscular as any superhero, count me in to persevere and endure the toughest of times with you. 

We will sometimes laugh when everything is just so incomprehensible because we don't want to be too wrinkly at such young age and we know that life doesn't have to be taken too seriously sometimes.

Our smiles will meet the crinkles of our eyes. Knowing by heart that what we have is genuine and forged by time and the things we've been through together. We give each other the time and space that is needed in order for us to grow into the persons that we needed and wanted to be. We will be thoughtful, kind and respectful with each other.

Somehow, along the way, we may make mistakes and totally pissed off at each other or be way too annoyed. We may handle things differently but we knew that at the end of the day, when the wrath of our tempers cool down, we will communicate and not sleep until we knew that we are sorry and have forgiven each other and that the problem was resolved. 

We will be comfortable together in the couch or in bed for afternoon naps and maybe some bit of cuddling. But as much that we love indoors, we will travel together too. We both know that we both yearn for that next great adventure. When we travel, we will both get to know each other more especially on how we will deal with different situations that will come our way. We will do our best to be healthy by doing some long walks or three minute runs or whatever we want to do as exercise. We will have our very own bucket list and together do each one in it and add some more.

We will never get tired of knowing each other every day of our lives because we both know that a lifetime is never enough of growing in love with each other and because we will both learn and realize life lessons and share them with each other. We will do our best to keep the sparkle and fire burning with what we can and with the best that we do.

We will introduce each other to different music and movie genre and different kinds of books. We may or may not like it but we won't force to each other. This will be just one of our ways of getting to know more of each other and what will make us different from each other that may keep the spice up still.

There will be days when we will have our topak ways but we will learn to not have topak when the other one has. We will be patient with each other but firm and gentle when telling each other that someone got pissed off or really annoyed. We will love each other even if on most days we may be hating each other. We will do our best to love each other with the best that we could and with all that we've got.

We will surprise each other from the smallest of things to the grandest of gestures. Because we both know that it's always the littlest things that matter and that the big bold moves are just the special ones. We will be the cheesy and romantics that we always are - especially when we are all alone with each other. *wink* 

We both know that despite the years we first started together, we still have a lot of things to figure out and learn as we go along. And this is what we will have in our minds as we both traverse this journey called life and that together, we will figure out things and we will learn them as we go along. 

Oh yes. I'll definitely say yes when you asked me to marry you. I'll walk down the aisle knowing that you'll be there to take my hand. I'll let you take my hand. I'll look at your eyes and will know. I'll just know that finally, you are the answer to my prayers. You are totally and absolutely amazing and worth keeping for. We are worth it. And we just opened another chapter in our lives. 

We will have five kids. Or maybe less or more than that because we will have one set of twins. We will raise them with unconditional love and support them in their every endeavor. We will guide them and discipline them if needed to. But we won't spoil them much nor control them altogether. We will let them grow into their very own persons. 

Should there come a time when we really get both busy and it may seem that we don't have time, we will make or create time for us to be together sans the kids and create time with the kids and to always have a bonding session with them.

We may go to bed really tired from a hard day at work. But we can alleviate it with some good massage and chat over coffee or tea till we are both sleepy and doze-off. 

We both know that even if we are in our 40s or 50s, life may throw at us some life-choking lemons that may shaken us and somewhere we might have midlife crisis of some sort, but know this. We will remember to always communicate with each other, openly and in a no-holds barred kind of way, to tell what we exactly feel, think and want to do. We will be both understanding and kind and thoughtful. And always have respect with each other. We will help each other. After all, aren't we best friends and lovers at the same time?

And we both know that we may have gained wisdom already but still there are a lot of things to learn and still have things to figure out. We may need to make up for some things but we will do it all with the thought that we need to balance it out with realities and ideals as we work things together.

Until one day, we will both retire and have empty nest. We will go back to just being together again. This time, old, wrinkly and gray. But we will never lose our sense of adventure and our being kids at heart. We will dance to our very own rhythm and pace. There's no need to rush. We will savor every minute that we have with each other even if that means afternoon coffee or tea in the porch of our home and mostly in silence and holding hands together. 

There might come a day that I may forget things more often than I used to but I know that in my heart, that just the sound of your voice or the slightest of your touch, I'll know that you are with me. That you are still the man I fell in love with years ago and the man I married and the man I still and always love each day of my life. The man I grow in love with until now.

This is how we will grow in love. I may not have written every slight detail in it but you get the picture. We can fill the gaps and get to roll with punches. We will be the living proof that true and real love exists despite how cynical and paradoxical the world is.

We are the living love story. Growing in love. Ever after. 

:) ☀ ♥